Stuck? Ask the One Who’s Been There

Written By Jordan White

There were plenty of days at FedEx Freight when I’d be standing on the dock, staring at a problem I couldn’t fix. Freight jammed up. Equipment stuck. Trucks that needed loading and deadlines that didn’t care how impossible the task seemed.

Eventually, after trying everything I knew to do—and usually getting more frustrated in the process—I’d have to do what I hated most: ask for help. And not just from anyone—from my dock manager. The man had been in the trenches for years. He had more experience in his pinky finger than I had in my whole body.

I’d call him over, embarrassed and annoyed, halfway expecting to be scolded for not figuring it out on my own. But he never made a big deal out of it. He’d walk up, assess the situation, and in a matter of moments do what I had been sweating over for half an hour. What had me stuck, he handled with ease, because he had been there before. He wasn’t just “in charge”—he knew how to get involved. That experience made all the difference.

That memory came back to me this week as I read Hebrews 2:14 -18. It’s a powerful picture of who Jesus is and what He’s done for us.

“For because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.”
– Hebrews 2:18 (ESV)

Let that sink in. Jesus didn’t just come to teach or to die—He came to relate. He took on flesh and blood (v.14). He entered into the brokenness of this world. He didn’t avoid suffering—He experienced it. He didn’t avoid temptation—He faced it. And because He went through it, He knows how to help us through it.

This is good news for every man who’s ever felt overwhelmed, ashamed, tired, tempted, or stuck. He gets it. And He knows exactly how to help.

Don’t let pride keep you stuck.

Asking for help can feel like admitting failure—but in God’s kingdom, it’s actually a sign of strength. If Jesus didn’t think He was too good to get in the mud with us, then we shouldn’t be too proud to turn to Him when we’re in over our heads.

Too often, we try to muscle our way through life’s problems. We think, “I’ve got this. I should be able to handle this.” But we were never meant to carry everything alone. Jesus wants to help. And not out of pity, but because He’s already faced the same pressures, the same pain, the same trials. He knows the way through.

When we resist help—especially from God—we stay stuck. But when we humble ourselves and turn to Him, we find grace, strength, and solutions we never would’ve found on our own.

“Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”
– Hebrews 4:16 (ESV)

You’re not the only one.

One of the enemy’s best lies is isolation: “You’re the only one who struggles with this.” Whether it’s temptation, depression, anger, addiction, fear, or just the pressure to keep up, it’s easy to feel alone.

But Scripture reminds us that Jesus suffered when He was tempted, not just despite it. That means He understands the weight of it. He’s not surprised by our struggles. He doesn’t shake His head in disgust. He meets us there, not as a distant God, but as a compassionate High Priest.

And beyond that, the brotherhood matters. The church matters. Legacy Men isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being real. When you open up, you’ll usually find that others are facing the same thing… and you’re actually surrounded by men who understand more than you think.

“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man.”
– 1 Corinthians 10:13 (ESV)

Let your experience become someone else’s breakthrough.

My dock manager didn’t just know what to do because he was smart—he knew because he had been there. He had wrestled with the same kinds of problems, probably failed at them himself once or twice, and learned the way through.

In the same way, God doesn’t waste your battles. If you’ve overcome something, if you’ve walked through fire and come out on the other side, you’ve got something valuable to offer. You don’t have to be a preacher or a counselor to make a difference. Sometimes all someone needs is a guy who says, “Hey, I’ve been there too. Here’s what helped me.”

Jesus helps us so that we can help others (see 2 Corinthians 1:3–4). Your testimony might just be the lifeline someone else is praying for.

“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
– Galatians 6:2 (ESV)

Final Thought:

Men, Jesus didn’t just come to save us from sin—He came to walk with us through the struggles of everyday life. He understands. He’s been there. And He’s ready to step in when we’re stuck. So don’t keep white-knuckling your way through life. Ask for help. Lift your eyes. Lean into the One who gets it—and let Him lead you forward.

You’re not alone. And you’re not beyond help. You’ve got a Savior who knows exactly what you’re facing and a brotherhood that’s here to walk with you.

Let’s be those kinds of men for one another.

Further Reading & Reflection:

Scriptures:

  • Hebrews 4:14–16 – Jesus, our Great High Priest who understands weakness

  • Isaiah 53:3–5 – He carried our sorrows and was pierced for our sins

  • Romans 8:3–4 – God condemned sin in the flesh by sending His Son

  • 2 Corinthians 1:3–4 – Comforted to be a comforter

Books to Consider:

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